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Amit Varma's avatar

Magnificent. You're writing for the ages, not just your subscribers now.

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Thank you, Amit. I owe you a world of gratitude. My writing life has been shaped by you and the community you've created. It is an invaluable gift. <3

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Anchita Ghatak's avatar

Tugged at the heartstrings. Wish you and your mother the very best.

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Thanks a lot, Anchita! Appreciate it. :)

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Maanav's avatar

This is a superb, superb essay, Rohan. It’s so simple and so perfect.

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Thanks a ton, Maanav! I'm glad it felt that way. Writing it was agonising.

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Not The Wife Material's avatar

Super! My calls with dad lasted 18 seconds. That was how much he spoke. With mum it is longer only when she has something to tell. I am not the sharer.

Brilliant piece. As always. It always feel “damn why didn’t i write this- this is so me”.

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Thanks a lot, Savvy! Please do write your version too. :)

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Priya Ramani's avatar

Gorgeous and the story of most of us, even if we don’t acknowledge it :)

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Thanks so much, Priya. Your comment means a lot! :)

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M Saraswathy's avatar

This was so relatable. Sometimes I am on long work calls and end up skipping lunch. When it's 1.30pm, I realise that it's time to call maa, which means that I have to quickly concoct an imaginary lunch menu for her. Maa won't just ask whether you have eaten, she'll also want to know the precise details of my lunch. What's fascinating is that she's able to discover my lunch lies very often; it seems to be a maa-secret-code. But things have changed ever since she's gotten a smartphone. She's barely attentive on calls (because the call is on speaker and she is simultaneously browsing FB) and is kinda glued to YT even when I am back home in Cal. Considering that she is the only non-work-related person I actually call, this can be annoying at times, but I am happy she is discovering new things.

P.S. I thought this edition would turn into a LinkedIn-bro-trying-too-hard column where something basic gets turned into management advice. Thankfully it didn't. 😁

<<A Real Example from Linkedin for context: A lizard fell on me the other day and it made me realise that if a creature

built with such a solid suction mechanism could fall, even startups built with solid

PMFs can fail 🙃)

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

If I ever write anything that feels like a LinkedIn life/management advice post, please call me out!

Your mom being distracted on phone calls because of social media is funny and, dare I say, some form of karmic justice? My mother loves vlogs too. I don't always see the attraction of the content she follows but I think it's great that she enjoys it.

Thanks a lot for reading! :D

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The Fanciful Senorita's avatar

So beautiful and relatable! We miss the nuance of a tired ‘did you eat’ in our “busyness”. As always this one too hit the heart. These days i try to speak to both my parents everyday. My mother is tenacious in this. There are days when i can wait to put the phone down, but there are others when i really enjoy the stories she shares, her almost childlike emotions - innocent, as if she’s never felt it, that make it all worth it. Feeling the weight of time more and more as it passes. Writeups like this one reassure me, once again, that Im not alone. So, as always, thanks so much for sharing!

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Thank you, as always, for your kind words, Reshma!

Your description of the phone calls is lovely. I hope it stays that way for a long time. :)

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The Fanciful Senorita's avatar

🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

This is so uncomfortably, heartbreakingly beautiful. If only we could send our letters to our mothers!

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Thanks a lot, Sanobar. This was an attempt to do exactly that, in fact. :)

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

Also, Rohan - I have a teen who shares quite a lot with me :) We aren't as close thanks to the distance of screens/devices between us -but, I know he shares some bond with me lol Your essay made me emotional not as a daughter but, as a mother.

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Sanobar Sabah's avatar

ha ha ha! I want to share something with you. My mother is a very private person. So, when one of my micro-essays got published in a literary journal, I shared it with her cousins - young and old. They congratulated Her! And she came around to ask me about it. After months of it getting published, I offered my mother my laptop for her to read it. She took longer than I expected so, I went over to look at what on earth was she doing?! Turns out, she was scrolling down to read the comments LOL and then said, “Asif (her cousin) ko bheja tmne?” LOL

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Hahaha, that is so sweet. I am sure she was very proud.

And I hope your bond remains just as strong when he is no longer a teen.

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Gargi's avatar

Just beautiful, Rohan. And my eyes are moist with a lump in my throat while I type this. You hit too close for comfort this time.

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Ah, I'm sorry, Gargi. And thank you! :)

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Ajay Kelkar's avatar

Lovely essay Rohan. You transported me to this wonderful space where I assessed my own relationships - with my mother & also with my father ,who passed away very early! I love your writing style & how seamlessly you can be very vulnerable & also insert humour in the same breath! Keep writing!

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Thanks a lot, Ajay! Appreciate it. :)

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Doel's avatar

So heartfelt, Rohan. Thank you for the honest writing!

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Thank you for reading, Doel. :)

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Shreya's avatar

This may well be your finest one yet. Well done. :)

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

That's very kind. Thanks so much, Shreya!

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Pracheta Bhattacharya's avatar

And you should have signed off the incest email with,

Best Retards...

Lovely piece

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Thanks, Poli. <3

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Aakriti's avatar

'I’ll visit soon — all of me is available to them, but only for a while' honestly made me well up. Thanks for writing this beautiful, heartfelt piece :)

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Thank you, Aakriti.

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Vidushi Dembi's avatar

Almost like my own journal has come to life. Thanks for this beautiful piece.

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Glad it spoke to you, Vidushi. Thank you for reading!

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Sushil Jhangiani's avatar

Thank you for being so vulnerable and telling us about what, I suspect, resonates with many of us. I know it does with me. My mother is long passed, but I let our relationship drift under the pretext of her not knowing of my world of work. Its of course too late for me now, but its not for you. You have acknowledged the issue, which itself is a major part of the solution- now go out and fix it. All power to you!

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Thank you so much, Sushil. Sorry to hear about you mother’s passing and I appreciate the kind note. :)

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