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Sarthak Dev's avatar

Beautiful. So many branches, all connected by a clear thread.

About the ordering thing, I hear you, Simran. There is a restaurant here that *refuses* to place the bill with women. The waiters don't even look at the women while placing the bill in front of the man. It is wild. And, because the food there is excellent, I have tried multiple things to see if they change. Zilch.

I guess, at some point, the marriage and driving jokes stop being signs of an unconscious bias and more of a very real pattern of condescension.

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Charulatha Banerjee's avatar

Thank you for writing this. I ask for the bill, it is given to my husband who promptly gives it to me I check, I pay and make sure the waiter notices that it is me who decides the tips. But this has been a coming of age thing, there was a time when I expected that the old fashioned way was the best. But it still feels very nice when a man pulls up a chair for me, or holds the door open. Sometimes I do too. 😊

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